America in General
Most Other Countries in General
|America is a country built for doing business not for living life. People live to work. Life has no meaning without work. One is defined by their economic function.
||People work to LIVE! In Europe, Latin America and Australia, people live for experiences and adventure.
|America's hyper individualistic culture promotes selfishness which leads to a less happy and less content populace. Despite it’s relative affluence, America ranks poorly in world happiness surveys (often failing to break the top 10) because individualism, materialism, and serving yourself are dead ends.
||Cultures are more communal and act for the greater good. This creates purpose, and leads to more fulfillment and contentment in life. Many 3rd world countries rank high on world Happiness surveys. Consider this BBC News report on world happiness where Nigeria ranked # 1 in happiness and many 3rd world countries ranked well ahead of the U.S.
|Americans are becoming materialistic, entitled and narcissistic. The culture teaches that happiness comes from material "posessions". Studies show that Americans score highest in the world on narcissism tests.
||People are not obsessed with consumerism. They understand that money and things are not the key to happiness. Narcissism is low. Modesty and humblness is high.
|Cost of living crazily expensive.
||Cost of living affordable or cheap.
|Too many women are selfish entitlement queens.
||Women are humble and appreciative. They express gratitude for even the smallest things you do for them.
|Women are least likely to remain friends with their exes. They typically cease all contact , remain bitter, and treat him like a mortal enemy to be chastised and avoided at all costs.
||Women tend to remain friends with their X’s, harboring no ill will or resentfulness towards them.
|Gangsta-worshipping thug culture.
||Centuries of amazing history.
|People are segregated/isolated and paranoid of each other.Going out alone means staying alone. Americans are uncomfortable talking to strangers and see it as abnormal, awkward, and intrusive (unless its business-related). We've all heard of the common American phrase "Breaking the ice" referring to initiating contact with strangers.
||People are more open, inclusive and connected. There is an instant familiarity between strangers rather than an ice barrier. People do not have a "keep out" wall or vibe around them.
|Default ice barrier between strangers. Every man is an island. People are polite but distant. Lack of human connection. One feels "alone" amongst crowds.
||Social atmosphere more natural and inclusive. One
doesn't feel alone even when physically alone. For an example of this ethos in play, listen to this recording of a bar I made while in Lima Peru. Note how complete strangers are singing together? Have you ever witnessed such comradery in any American bar?
|Friendships are superficial and fleeting. People drift apart easily. Few people stick through thick and thin. It’s no wonder why one of the common cultural sayings in America is “good friends are hard to find”
||Friendships are deeper and truer, more like the kind you see in Disney movies and stories.
|Smiles and greetings are fake, artificial and contrived.
||Smiles are genuine if people choose to show one.
|One must always pretend that everything is going great and that one is always "having a great day", even if it's not true.
||One is not required to always pretend that everything is great. One is allowed to feel whatever one truly feels.
|Social psychologists claim that American culture has become one of competitiveness, superiority and one-upmanship. This competitive vibe makes one feel fragmented, stressed, alone and insecure. The result is a society (that statistics show) leads the world in mental illness such as Anxiety and Depression, % of its citizenry incarcerated, bullying, road rage, and mass shootings (America accounts for 60% of the world’s mass shootings) . Incivility is at an all time high.
||Natural vibe makes one feel at ease with themselves and others, allowing you to "be yourself". One feels more authentic, whole, and accepted for who you are. Many Americans report better mental health and personal fulfillment during time spent abroad
|Human relationships feel artificial and superficial, mostly based on usefulness.
||Human relationships feel truer and more natural, based on a feeling of "shared connection"
|Meeting people restricted to cliques, school and work. The average person does not know many people and their dating choices are very limited.
||Meeting people is not restricted to cliques,
school and work. The average person knows more people and their dating
prospects are wider with more choices.
|Women are conditioned to despise men and look down on them as fools, predators and criminals.
||Women respect and need men. They love to provide support and tenderness to their man.
|Females do not want to look or act feminine. Too many are spoiled, self-centered, and undisciplined.
||Females are proud to be look, act, and dress feminine. They are sweet and affectionate.
|Single men outnumber single women. (Possibly due to large influx of male immigrant workers) Many studies and statistics confirm this. This results in a more competitive dating environment for men.
||In poorer countries, single women outnumber
single men, giving men more choices and forcing more competition among
women, thus giving men the upper hand and keeping women less spoiled,
more feminine and beautiful.
|Women have too many choices and become super
picky, rejecting 99 percent of their admirers. They think they are too
good for everyone and have unrealistic standards.
||Women value good men and do not think that
everyone is not good enough for them. They are more down to earth and real about themselves and others.
|Attractive women always unavailable. Every attractive girl you meet tells you that she's taken or not looking.
||You can always find attractive girls around who tell you they are single and available.
|Women tend to be cold, reserved, defensive, paranoid, and stuck up toward male strangers (except for women who are old, unattractive or very poor). As a result, trying to meet them feels awkward, unnatural, and inappropriate.
||Women are very open and receptive. There is no paranoid fear of men as dangerous or predatory. Nor is there a "men as creeps" ethos. For these reasons, meeting them occurs more naturally and in the flow.
|Most women are overweight. Those that aren't are
considered hot and nearly unattainable, as everyone wants them. So the
choices for men suck.
||Overweight women are rare. Height and weight proportionate is the norm. So you can take it for granted that the females you meet will be too.
|Dating is unnatural and a constant uphill battle.
You have to have "game" or master "techniques" to try to get women, or
wait forever to "get lucky".
||Dating occurs naturally and mutually - meeting,
flirting, expressing interest, holding hands, kissing, etc. happens
naturally with the flow.
|Quality attractive single women without emotional baggage or issues are rare or unattainable.
||Quality attractive single women without emotional baggage or issues are common.
|Women have an inner resistance toward relationships with men. Their subconscious attitude repels attachment to men.
||Women dream and long for a man to capture their heart whom they can love, support and cherish. For example, See these Filipina dating profile samples where this spirit of dreaming and longing for a man is very evident but yet completely absent from American women profiles
|Attractive girls cannot hold a real intelligent
conversation. They act like airheads and have few interests. You have to
"play games" to keep their attention.
||Attractive girls can hold a normal intelligent conversation and are down to earth. Interacting with them feels natural.
They have more interests.
|Sex and getting laid with attractive women is difficult or near impossible.
||Sex and getting laid with attractive women comes more naturally.
|Man-hating culture induces hatred of masculinity and men to act less masculine.
||Culture and women admire and respect men and masculinity.
|Men do not feel appreciated, wanted or needed.
||Men feel appreciated, admired, wanted and needed.
|Niceness is not rewarded. It is seen as a weakness to trample on. Women see it as weak, needy and desperate.
||Niceness from men is appreciated and rewarded. It counts and wins actual points with women.
|American women often treat abusive men better than they treat nice men. They will give abusive partners multiple chances but show no interest in being with a nice guy. Morbidly, in theory, you have better odds of getting a second chance with an American woman by throwing her out of a moving car than by being nice to her.
||Being nice is a quality that counts, is appreciated and reciprocated.
|People you meet online are usually overweight and unattractive, or losers with dysfunctional personalities. Experiences are almost always negative. Attractive women use them just to enjoy the attention. The gender imbalance of 60% men and 40% women puts men at a HUGE disadvantage.
||It is common to meet quality sincere people online, including attractive females. There is no loser stigma associated with it. Experiences are usually positive, whether there is a "love connection" or not.
|Co-workers don't usually eat together during lunch, but go their separate ways.
||Co-workers usually eat together and congregate in a spirit of camaraderie.
|Healthcare costs overpriced and out of control, many are not covered. International studies conclude that the American healthcare system is among the worst in the entire world due to lack of general public access. Only the rich and affluent can truly afford it. Statistics show U.S. life expectancy rates as ranking very low ranging from 42nd to 50th in the world. Statistics also show that most bankruptcies in the U.S. are due to medical bills despite the fact that MOST had health insurance coverage.
||Healthcare costs are a fraction of what they are in the US, and either affordable or free. Because of this, the citizenry is not one medical event away from being totally wiped out.
|Foods are fatty, artificial, unhealthy, and
contain processed white flour. Organic foods are expensive which
only the rich can afford.
||Food is more natural and wholesome. Even cheap food is usually healthy and organic, the equivalent of expensive health food in the US. You don't have to go to expensive health food stores to eat healthy like you do in the US.
|Going out alone makes you look like a loser to others, and you stay alone.
||Going out alone is ok and it is easy to meet people in casual public places.
|When you move to a new place in the US, it can take months or years (or never) just to find a few regular friends.
||When you go to a new place, making new friends is immediate, natural and part of the flow of things.
|A man is not allowed to signal interest in a
woman unless she signals her interest first, or he will come across as
creepish, perverted and inappropriate.
||A man is allowed to signal interest in a woman
first and expected to pursue her, and if he does it in a good manner, he
comes across as charming and flattering.
|An ever growing number of people don't bother to make time for their friends or relatives.
||People make time for their friends, family and relatives, no matter how busy they are.
|When you have a mental/emotional breakdown, most or all of your friends will not want to hear about it, so you have to pay a therapist who doesn’t really even care. Taking anti depressants or anti anxiety medications is very common and widespread. Statistics show that the US leads the world in these psychiatric conditions which just reflects how pychologically unhealthy the American culture truly is. Immigrants even comment about this being one of the biggest surprises about American culture.
||When people have problems or feel down, they have MANY close friends and relatives to confide in. Seeing a mental health professional or taking anti anxiety and antidepressant medications is mostly unheard of.
|American kids tend to be spoiled and undisciplined. They do not respect their parents or each other, but mock and downplay them. Any casual observer can see this. They rarely see their parents after they reach adulthood.
||Kids respect their parents and each other more
than their American counterparts do. They remain close to their parents
into adulthood and take care of them.
|Families are not harmonious. They are a group of people with competing self-interests. Individual needs are placed over the family. Most families are not close knit, with most families only visiting each other during the holidays. The American Divorce rate is the highest in the entire world at 50 - 60%!
||Families are more harmonious and agreeable. Each member considers the family's needs, not just their own. Families are much closer and in constant contact. Families show a willingness to help each other more than American families do. Divorce rates are far less than in the US.
|People are generally anti-social, don‘t talk to strangers, don‘t know their neighbors. (They only politely nod or smile in passing), and have an isolation mentality that makes them PREFER being alone.
||People are socially inclusive and do not have a isolationist mentality. People usually know about their neighbors' lives, and invite them over for get togethers.
|If you lose everything - your job, savings,
house, etc. - and hit rock bottom, no one will care about you or be
there for you. You will be on your own and turn into a bum. In the US
it's every man for himself. No one cares for the befallen.
||If you lose everything and hit rock bottom, you have a network of family and friends that will help you and care for you that you can fall back on. In additon, other industrialized countries make up for comparatively lower wages with subsidized public services in health care, housing, child care, and public transportation.
|Women are sensitive to age in the dating game. American dating sites reflect this as most woman cap the age limit of their desired match at a maximum of 4 years their senior
||Women are not age sensitive in the dating game. Age differences are not judged. In many countries, a 45 year old man can flirt or date with a 20 yr old woman without it being seen as pathetic , creepy, or perverted.
|Typical female dating profiles say they "want" a man who will "compliment" them.
Many feel the need to "shout" their independence and state that they dont need a man
||Typical Dating profiles say they "need" a man who will "complete" them.
Women never feel the need to announce their independence nor do they go out of their way to state that they dont need a man.
|Americans do not look very happy, but appear grumpy, irritable, overweight, and stressed out (always hurried). Foreigners who observe American tourists abroad often comment that many Americans behave like spoiled adult children describing them as impatient, demanding, whiney, easy to complain, and prone to temper tantrums. In fact, most Americans would be surprised to learn that we Americans have a similar reputation (in addition to being the least desired clientele) amongst overseas call center reps also. That speaks volumes!.
||People seem more happy and content even if poor. Lifestyles are not stressed and hurried. People are patient and understanding. There are no public temper tantrums when things don’t go their way.